Despite this article last year where I described myself as a "Butch Lesbian" while having no real idea what a "Butch Lesbian" is, and frankly, neither do other self-proclaimed "Butch Lesbians" I'm going to let people know that I don't think I'm really a TRUE "Butch Lesbian." I'm just a regular run-of-the-mill dyke, or a really ugly and uppity lesbo feminist, depending on who you ask.
For the sake of not naming names, there are two rather prominent "Butch Lesbian" activists who have taken to publicly trashing me (one of them numerous times). It seems they enjoy brow-beating other women who do not narrowly conform to their ideas of gender, and yes, this is all gender, but for more on that, read the link below. To those women, sure, I don't fit into your little club, and I don't want to anyways. I will, however, find your antics juvenile, despite both of your ages, and will not hesitate to call bullshit when I see it.
I'm tired of brow-beating from fellow women on the topic. I'm just a fat dyke, and I express myself however the hell I want. So for the sake of expressing myself, here is an expression: gender norms are fucking asinine, and those who support gender norms and "othering" of breaking gender norms through endless meaningless labels are hilarious. That includes the labels of "Butch" and "Femme." When really, both of you are dykes, and both of you are women. Get over yourselves, your egos, and your vanity/gen(d)eral issues!
A friend of mine wrote a great piece on this topic, and my thoughts can also be summed up with it too. Definitely read it, it's worth thinking about. "Hate to Break it to You, but Butch and Femme is Also Gender"